any thoughts on how to get a sparkplug thats siezed/crossthreaded out of my car? i cant get enough power with the tool i normally use, which tells me the plug is propper buggered.

Spark plug socket, attached to a long arm?!
Windy gun?
Big hammer?

well, i can probably *just* torque it out with the tool i've got, but i dont wanna f*ck the head

Take it to a garage then. If they do screw it up they should be able to re-thread it!