1984 760 Turbos with a B23ET engine had forged internals....but a standard late-model B230 will support way more power than the drivetrain anyway. They're pretty damn burly engines.
I get you with the flange. It's a standard 'slip over' type design.
Yes, get the pumps and pan from a 360. Watch out for B19s - some seemingly got a normal 'long' waterpump (although I have no idea how it fits). Finding a B19 car nowadays is a challenge, so I'd not worry about that too much.
I would presume they're available new, but I have no idea of the cost. I've had a couple of sets of PZ cams...both came from Coastal Rides..but they were slightly odd folk to deal with.
I think the tensioner is up to £100....which is a lot of money to some of the tight-wads on this scene

The standard B234 uses a totally different belt layout, hence a different tensioner. You couldn't retro-fit it easily to a normal B230.
There aren't that many 16vT motors out there, so there aren't that many maps. I'm sure they can be found, but it might not be worth the hassle. We used the 'Wizard' in MSnS, with some expert help from Andy, and the car drove almost as well as stock from the moment we turned the key. Which EMS would you be using, anyway?
People have broken drivetrains with stock power, but driving it in a way which won't attract the attentions of the law....250 seems like a good number in terms of being very confident that it'll hold up. Assuming a few factors, it'll probably hold a fair bit more. Fuse pretty much has that covered. I'm planning to make 250-300, and don't anticipate any problems. This is the reason most people don't bother with 16v in 300s - 8v will make more than enough power to break the drivetrain if you do it right.
cheers
James